Hinge lanza "World Prompts" con Esther Perel para ayudar a los usuarios a tener mejores conversaciones en las citas

Start every chat with a bold invitation that invites a real story: ask, “What moment from today sparked a connection?” This concrete move creates a plan for the talk and pilots a flow de quality details, turning typical chatter into something meaningful.

With Your World Prompts, Esther Perel’s approach helps daters address daily topics rather than fall into typical small talk. Use prompts to surface a favourite breakfast ritual, a recent holiday memory, or an eating habit that reveals values. The goal is to convert invitations into moments of real connection and to share quality observations that your friend could relate to again and again.

Keep the rhythm simple: three prompts per chat, two brief follow-ups, and a 60–90 second window for each response to keep momentum. This daily practice creates quality engagement and gives both sides a clear plan for what to share next. If a topic stalls, stretch to a new angle–breakfast memories, a favourite holiday memory, or a curious night routine–and invite the other person to answer in a way that is real and specific. whatever vibe you start with, aim for clarity and bold invitations that invite detail rather than vague generalities. Choose the ones that fit your conversational style.

If the chat drifts, flip to a playful, practical angle to reset the energy with an allll burst of momentum. Ask a quick, concrete question like, “What invitation did you recently decline, and why?” or “What small thing made your night better?” The idea is to stretch the dialogue while keeping it light, turning even a vague start into something concrete and real.

Hinge’s Your World Prompts, paired with Esther Perel’s guidance, creates a productive flow of conversations across chats with daily practice and a focus on authentic connections. It helps you pick the right ones, extend your breakfast chats into meaningful topics, and keep a long-term plan for better conversations that feel bestselling in their impact. The approach is practical, not lofty, and invites you to show confidence without overdoing it, making every conversation real and engaging for the ones you meet.

Tailor Prompts to Your Dating Goals

Outline your dating goal for the next 90 days and align Your World Prompts with it. This truly focuses conversations and helps you get closer to what you want–whether you’re chasing more dates, deeper chats, or low-commitment connections. Dont rely on generic lines; use perel’s latest bestselling insights to keep conversations warm within clear boundaries.

Clarify the goal and milestones – Select one primary objective (for example, getting to know someone well enough to decide on a second date) and a secondary aim (such as meeting more people this month or getting feedback from girlfriends about tone). Set a concrete milestone in days to measure progress, like 30 or 60 days.
Map prompts to goal categories – Use distinct prompts for each aim:
- Low-commitment prompts to keep things light and respectful.
- Deeper prompts for meaningful connections when you sense real potential.
- Interest-based prompts to reveal shared hobbies such as music, travel, or culture.
Craft homemade prompts and test them – Write prompts in your own voice. Try lines like:
- “What music have you been into lately and why does it matter to you?”
- “If you could live anywhere for a year, would argentina be on your list?”
- “What feeling do you want to create on a date?”
- “What’s a moment that felt truly memorable to you?”
Then track outcomes in sheets to see which prompts lead to getting thoughtful replies and more engaging conversations. Also consider light memes to test tone where appropriate.
Iterate and adjust – Review responses weekly, drop prompts that feel forced, and replace them with fresh ones aligned to your latest goals. Keep alignment with perel’s balance approach to conversation, so you stay curious without over-sharing, and maintain your authentic voice within the running set of prompts.

Within a few days you’ll notice conversations becoming more natural, and over days or weeks you’ll build a routine that helps you reach your target outcomes.

Turn Prompts into Open-Ended Questions

Turn every prompt into a single open-ended question that invites detail. If a prompt sounds cold or flat, rewrite it to ask exactly what happened, what you learned, or how the experience shaped your view. Dont settle for yes or no; if you sense tension, you wont push for answers; instead, guide the other person to share stories, not snippets.

Use their profiles as a map: they picked prompts that surface values and everyday moments. Create a short list of 3-5 open questions per prompt and translate them into a natural flow that moves from travel or hobbies to daily routines. This keeps the conversation in a zone where curiosity feels warm and inviting, like a friend guiding a chat around shared interests.

Sample rewrites: For “What are you passionate about?”, try “What travel moment or everyday activity lights you up and why?” For “Describe your perfect weekend”, rewrite to “What would a typical weekend look like, and what makes it feel meaningful to you?” For a prompt about a favorite memory, ask “What moment from your last trip still echoes in you, and what did it teach you?” If a memory includes a specific sound, ask “What sound from that moment sticks with you and why?”

Encourage storytelling by framing follow-ups as invitations: “What happened next?” “Who were you with, and what did that moment reveal about you?” Counting helps: aim for 2-4 questions per prompt. If you sense resistance, share a quick personal example to wake-up curiosity and invite them to add their own details.

Keep it practical: test prompts with a friend and watch where listening grows stronger. Encourage concrete detail by asking about walks, a tall moment, a favorite sample memory, or a simple daily ritual. Show you’re engaged with follow-ups, use a list of 3-5 questions, and count on the other person to drive the pace. Dont overwhelm with rapid-fire questions; let the conversation wake-up and flow naturally.

Bridge Small Talk to Meaningful Topics with Esther Perel

Three concrete moves to deepen conversation

Ask an open question that invites a story, such as “What moment this week stood out for you?” The goal is to move from surface notes to personal signals and values. Listen for a detail that calms nerves, then reflect gently and ask a related follow-up question. These steps create points of connection that feel natural rather than rehearsed. Treat listening as medals earned for paying attention. Take a small risk by sharing a personal detail; this signals trust and invites reciprocity. Leave room for spontaneous prompts that respond to what the other person just said.

Keep topics anchored by shared elements: music, photos, dessert, or a group activity with friends. These anchors help you connect without leaning on clichés and offer a natural bridge to deeper topics. By naming a small detail, you acknowledge the other person and give them space to share more. Consider the signals you get in tone and pace: theyre ready to go deeper if they lean in; theyre not if they drift or pause. End by highlighting the greatest takeaway you felt from the chat, and propose a simple next step that feels natural. With years of practice, you gain instincts for when to lean in and when to listen. If a shower thought hits you, capture it and use it as a prompt in a future conversation.

Prompts and formats that work in practice

Three prompts you can keep handy: “What moment this week felt meaningful?” “What small risk did you take recently?” “Which photo from the past month captures how you felt?” These prompts are flexible for a quick connect or a longer dialogue, and they work whether you’re in a booked dinner, a casual hang, or a group meetup. Use them to gather experiences, not checkboxes.

To extend, pair prompts with a tangible action: revisit one topic next time, or schedule a second conversation at a cafe where you can share a memory linked to dessert or a playlist. This continuity helps participants feel seen and builds trust. If you want a collaborative feel, co-created prompts with your date or friends boost engagement and sticking to a simple framework.

Highlight Your Greatest Strength Through Prompts

Lead with prompts that reveal your truth and practical strengths, not glossy fantasies. Create a compact card that highlights your strongest skill in two lines and invites a specific response. Build a listing that pairs a hobby with a real outcome, plus a quick proof point, so your vibe reads clearly at a glance, even on a headboard-sized screen.

Keep the tone direct and mature, avoiding clichés. Use tips like co-created prompts with a friend to test how it lands and move from generic statements to concrete examples. The result should feel honest, and it should align with your relationships goals without sounding rehearsed. Living in sheher taught me to listen first, which shows in every prompt I craft.

Prompts that highlight my strongest trait: what I do best in conversations, in two lines or less. I turn typical, tricky topics into something practical by asking one focused question and outlining the next step to keep the flow in chats.

Hobby-based prompt: I nerd out about [your hobby], and I can explain why it matters for building connections in relationships, turning casual talk into meaningful shared context with them.

Co-created prompt: I co-create prompts with friends to test authenticity; my card evolves with feedback and moves toward clarity, not bravado.

Vent prompt: If I vent about a challenge, I name the chip in the system and propose one small action that moves us forward, keeping the conversation constructive and light.

Use Real-World Templates: Quick Message Flows

Build a one-page sheet, and keep several sheets of quick message flows you can land in any chat. Each flow starts with a specific opening, includes a short follow-up, turns to a hobby or interest, and ends with a low-commitment invite. Coach says keep the tone friendly, curious, and concise; customize in seconds if the match signals interest. Spent a few minutes aligning topics you actually care about–books, series, trivia, or hobbies–and you’ll feel more sure about the first reply.

Flow A: Opening and bond. Opening: “Hey [Name], you mentioned books and trivia–what’s a question you love to drop in a convo?” Follow-up: “Nice–do you have a favorite series you keep revisiting?” Close: “If you’re up for it, we can land this convo over a casual drink later this week.”

Flow B: Quick pivot to hobbies. Opening: “What’s one hobby you’d never skip on a Friday night?” Follow-up: “I’m finding your answer relatable; do you prefer solo or group hangs when you’re into that hobby?” Close: “If you’re up for it, we can land a quick chat this weekend and maybe try a painting class or a dancing night.”

Flow C: Low-commitment test and invite. Opening: “What’s one thing you’d be willing to try this week to mix things up?” Follow-up: “If you name a hobby, I’ll bring a quick trivia question to land a fun convo.” Close: “We could try it over a low-commitment hang–coffee or a walk–your call.”

Metrics and tweaks: Track which flow earns replies and which topics land best. Spend 60 seconds after a chat to note the feeling of the reply–does it tell you they’re engaged or flat? If engagement rises, turn the topic toward a shared hobby or a light hang. Use a simple sheet to log opening, follow-up, and result, then update your templates weekly. The coach says a clear, specific question beats a vague one, and short messages outperform long ones. Keep a list of topics like rest, books, series, trivia, dancing, and hobbies, so you can turn a landing into momentum rather than sticking to a single approach. You’ll spend less time drafting and more time finding real connection.